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Wife wants a motorcycle?

admin — Fri, 07 May 2010 17:10:09 +0000

My wife and I have 3 small children (the boys are 5 and 6) and our little girl is 18 month old. We have just bought our first home last summer and there is alot of repairs that we need to do to it. Like upgrade the kitchen, redo bathrooms, not to mention replace heater system (which is not broken yet, but its very old). Anyway, she just completed her motorcycle class, got a license and now she wants to buy a motorcycle. She says she will get something not very expansive (like 3-5k). We do not have this $ to spend on the motorocycle, so she wants to take a credit/loan. Plus I have no idea how much is the insurance, but I can imagine our premiums will go up. We are ok financially, I mean we have good jobs, but everything goes toward the kids – their school, their figure skating/ballet classes. So in the end, we really dont have that much $ left to spend on ourselves.
I dont know how to react. Please advise and dont be mean I understand that a woman needs her space, that she wants a hobby, etc. I am not against it. I just think right now is the wrong time for it. We really should be spending $ on renovations on our house, not the motorcycle. She told me yesterday (and it really hurt alot) that ok, we will have this nice, renovated house, but she is “going to wake up one day and just leave it all” This sucks. I sacrifice everything for the family. I have put myself through grad school and got Masters in CS while working with 3 kids. I make good $, but I can never bring myself to spending on things that I “want”. Kids always come first. I think my wife is being selfish and unfair. What do you think?

Husband wants a motorcycle?

admin — Thu, 06 May 2010 14:18:01 +0000

My husband and I have 3 small children (the girls are 5 and 6) and our little boy is 18 month old. We have just bought our first home last summer and there is alot of repairs that we need to do to it. Like upgrade the kitchen, redo bathrooms, not to mention replace heater system (which is not broken yet, but its very old). Anyway, he just completed his motorcycle class, got a license and now he wants to buy a motorcycle. He says he will get something not very expansive (like 3-5k). We do not have this $ to spend on the motorocycle, so he wants to take a credit/loan. Plus I have no idea how much is the insurance, but I can imagine our premiums will go up. We are ok financially, I mean we have good jobs, but everything goes toward the kids – their school, their figure skating/ballet classes. So in the end, we really dont have that much $ left to spend on ourselves.
I dont know how to react. Please advise and dont be mean I understand that a man needs his space, that he wants a hobby, etc. I am not against it. I just think right now is the wrong time for it. We really should be spending $ on renovations on our house, not the motorcycle. He told me yesterday (and it really hurt alot) that ok, we will have this nice, renovated house, but he is “going to wake up one day and just leave it all” This sucks. I sacrifice everything for the family. I have put myself through grad school and got Masters in CS while working with 3 kids. I make good $, but I can never bring myself to spending on things that I “want”. Kids always come first. I think my husband is being selfish and unfair. What do you think?