Wife wants a motorcycle?
May 7, 2010 by admin
Filed under Kitchen Ideas
My wife and I have 3 small children (the boys are 5 and 6) and our little girl is 18 month old. We have just bought our first home last summer and there is alot of repairs that we need to do to it. Like upgrade the kitchen, redo bathrooms, not to mention replace heater system (which is not broken yet, but its very old). Anyway, she just completed her motorcycle class, got a license and now she wants to buy a motorcycle. She says she will get something not very expansive (like 3-5k). We do not have this $ to spend on the motorocycle, so she wants to take a credit/loan. Plus I have no idea how much is the insurance, but I can imagine our premiums will go up. We are ok financially, I mean we have good jobs, but everything goes toward the kids – their school, their figure skating/ballet classes. So in the end, we really dont have that much $ left to spend on ourselves.
I dont know how to react. Please advise and dont be mean 
I understand that a woman needs her space, that she wants a hobby, etc. I am not against it. I just think right now is the wrong time for it. We really should be spending $ on renovations on our house, not the motorcycle. She told me yesterday (and it really hurt alot) that ok, we will have this nice, renovated house, but she is “going to wake up one day and just leave it all” 
This sucks. I sacrifice everything for the family. I have put myself through grad school and got Masters in CS while working with 3 kids. I make good $, but I can never bring myself to spending on things that I “want”. Kids always come first. I think my wife is being selfish and unfair. What do you think?
That b itch will probably get a pink one just so you can’t ride it.
Dude, LET HER GET IT. Ever seen the movie “Sideways” ???
sounds like u have 4 kids instead of 3 she is acted childish and inconsiderate. if she would really leave u because of a bloody motorcycle then that means she never really loved u to begin with. love is patient love is kind and love understands
I say let her get the bike. Sure there are house repairs that you are doing but if there is nothing too pressing to renovate, I say get the bike. You live in the house and will for a long time hopefully so put one of the renovating jobs on the back burner to make way for the bike.
Sit down and have an open discussion about it. See if you can meet in the middle and get a bike you both can ride. a great means of getting away and clearing your head..
I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH MILDRED
Kids come first. Not only could the money go in for their education or something, but also its not the safest thing in the world. What if something happened and she were (would never wish this on anyone) die or be really badly or permanently disabled?? I know you cant live life being afraid, but when you have small children you don’t need to take an unnecessary risk. I say once they are older or even out of the house, fine. But for now I would see if she cant find something safer and less expensive to be her hobby.
Maybe even getting a 4 wheeler, something that the whole family (once they are old enough) can enjoy. Its slower speeds, not dealing with traffic, and its something you all can share? And its a blast! Just wear helmets ^_^
it sounds like you two really need to talk things out…you might be missing something she is trying to say and she might be missing something you are trying to say…and if it truly is how you say it is…remember there’s two sides to every story…then i don’t see why the fuss with the motorcycle…you’d have to take out loans for the house renovations anyway or borrow against your house whichever…let her buy an inexpensive motorcycle for a starting out bike and then later (like several years down the road) when she’s more experienced as a rider she can upgrade…i don’t think it’s gonna hurt for her to get it…and yes kids come first…but sometimes you have to stop the merry go round and get something for yourselve sor you’ll burn out and then she really will leave…good luck.